Dear Harlan: My daughter, 19, recently gave her ex-boyfriend, 18, a second chance. Their relationship ended because of his lack of consideration. He wanted to act single with his friends and committed while with her. At this age, do you believe that people can change and mature, or is she destined for more heartache and heartbreak? – Fool Me Once
Dear Fool Me Once: Of course he’s going to break her heart again. That’s what 18-year-olds do. As long as your daughter sets clear boundaries and has a plan should he relapse, she can take away an invaluable life lesson. Women with options who set strong boundaries can move on. Encourage her to always do things she loves to do with interesting people. This way, when he breaks her heart, she can pick up the pieces faster because she’ll be surrounded by other guys who can give her what she wants and deserves.