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Rejection by silence says a lot about a man

Unhappy Thumbs Down WomanDear Harlan: I met this guy (he was my waiter and I let him my number!), and we dated for almost two months. Things were going really well (or so I thought). It was great to date a guy who actually called me and seemed genuinely interested in me. A few weeks ago, there were a few incidents of bizarre behavior. We had tentative plans to meet up, but his phone started going straight to voice mail. He said he was too tired to come over to my place. hen one night, I called him to see if he wanted to get drinks. He texted me back, apologizing that he had been at the gym and missed my call and that he was having dinner with his brother-in-law and sister, and that we should catch up that weekend. Well, I never heard from him again. That weekend and another week went by, and in a last-ditch effort, I sent a text to him. He never replied. What happened? Did I do something wrong? I’m really hurt that he didn’t even break up with me – like I wasn’t even worth a breakup. I want to yell at him for disappearing, but I also really miss him. We were friends too, and I can’t believe he’d be OK with just cutting me out of his life like that. Any advice or insight as to why guys disappear?

Ignored

Dear Ignored:  Rejection by silence sucks.  It’s rude, hurtful, disrespectful, selfish, and plain old mean. It’s the most cowardly form of rejection. He’s just a sad man who is too afraid to look you in the eyes and tell you the truth.  His solution — ignore you.  Assume he’s painfully insecure and with another woman. Assume you’re hot and too good for him. Should you ever see or hear from him again, don’t get angry  – smile and tell him that you’re disappointed and grateful – disappointed he chose to ignore you, and grateful he didn’t take up any more of your time.

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