Dear Harlan: What should I do with my ex’s stuff? I broke up with him two months ago and he has completely deleted me from his life. He has blocked me from his social media and will not take my calls. I have several of his things at my place. I have an expensive leather jacket of his, a pair of his shoes and Beats headphones. I was going to send his stuff to him or leave it for him to pick up, but he will not talk to me. At what point do I give them away or sell them? I could use the extra money.
— Ex’s Stuff
Dear Ex’s Stuff: Don’t sell his stuff. If he ended up buying it back, he would have the pain of the breakup and the money he spent to get his stuff back. I know you’re hurt after being deleted from his life, but you dumped this guy. You don’t get to control his reaction. Selling his stuff would just be a way of hurting him. There’s no reason to give this relationship any more energy. If you don’t like looking at his stuff, put it in a box and drop it off at his house. Keeping it around or selling it only means putting more energy into this relationship. If you miss him, then tell him. If you want closure, put the words into a note with the stuff. If you want payback, work on moving forward and living a life that fills you up with happiness. Don’t spend any more time on him.
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