Dear Harlan, I’m 19 years old and in my first real relationship. I’ve been dating this guy for a couple of years and I’m madly in love. I cheated in the beginning of my relationship and felt like shit afterwards. Now, I’m as faithful as can be but I still feel bad. What do I do? – Cheated
Dear Cheated, You learned that cheating makes you feel like sh*t. That’s a good lesson. Don’t forget that feeling. Use this feeling to make you a stronger, better, and a more loving partner. Use that feeling to understand why you did it and why it will never happen again. Use that feeling to get tested for a sexually transmitted infection to protect your partner – just in case. Once you know why you did it and why it will never happen again, you can live with yourself. If you need to confess, find a spiritual leader and a therapist.