Dear Harlan, There’s a guy whom I’m interested in dating, but I’m not sure he’s the right type for me. I know him from work, and he’s super nice. We will be going to the same college in the fall. He asked me to hang out, but I’ve been too busy. I like him, but the problem is that he’s a big smoker (pot) and drinker. I don’t want to get involved in that stuff. Other than that, he’s a really nice guy. He continues to ask me out, but I’ve been hesitant. I don’t want to get involved with drugs. I also want get to know him better first. He keeps saying that he likes me and wants to take me on a date. I don’t know what to do! School hasn’t even started yet. I haven’t seen him in months, so I don’t know how we’ll get along in person. Also, I don’t really want to start college with a boyfriend. Should I date him and try to get away from him when he smokes? Or should I say I’m not interested and possibly ruin our long friendship? – Confused Crusher
Dear Confused: As a rule, when you can’t tell a man the truth before dating him, you have no business dating him. Listen to that voice inside. Ask him how important getting drunk and high is in his life. Give him a chance to explain how he uses. If getting wasted is more important than dating you, you’ll have your answers. Make sure you have an honest conversation and listen that voice inside. It’s telling you something.
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