Dear Harlan: I have a roommate who smokes pot inside of our apartment. I’ve asked him not to do this in our place, but he doesn’t listen to me. I made it clear that I don’t want to have something illegal going on in the room. I’m in law school, and I can’t risk getting arrested (I live in a state where marijuana is illegal). He continues to have people over and party in our place. I finally asked him to move out. He said I should be the one to move out because I’m the one with the problem. It’s unfair that I should be the one who has to move and find someone to sublet when he is the one who has been blatantly breaking the law. Any advice?
— Irritate Roommate
Dear Irritated Roommate: Don’t waste your time being right. MOVE OUT! He doesn’t care about you or your future. He doesn’t care if he puts your career in jeopardy. Yes, it’s not fair that you have to move out. Yes, it’s annoying that you will have to find someone to sublet your place. Yes, he is wrong. But none of this changes the fact that fighting with him will result in a lot of wasted time, energy and resources that could be spent on so many other better things. Choose your battles wisely. This isn’t one worth fighting. The sooner you get out of this situation, the faster you can focus on all of the other things you enjoy. Take the hit. Move out as soon as possible and put all of this behind you.
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